(continued from part 1)
I’ve tried peacocking myself. I did this maybe a couple times when I heard that other guys were doing it, just to see if it worked.
I felt ridiculous when I went out and was totally incongruent with my personality.
But we all know that women pay attention to fashion, and like a well-dressed man.
I noticed that it was in my workout clothes or something really basic - like jeans and a tanktop that some of my best pickups occurred.
At the same time, I’d see muscled-up guys wearing revealing spandex, or super-tight shirts at the club, and women definitely did not respond well to this.
This make me think… that maybe this is not on how much the clothes cost or how flashy they are…
I guess there is something else going on.
Actually, there are two things going on, and you must manage and balance these two things.
First and foremost, never seek approval from women. If a woman can tell that you are trying to impress her or make her like you, you are toast.
So if you look like you got dressed with the intention of getting women’s attention, they’ll see you coming a mile a way and put up their defenses.
You DON’T have to look like a pick up artist.
To dress modestly and not put too much thought into it avails much.
However, you need to present yourself in the best way you can and not to look sloppy.
This comes back to self-expression.
You already have a sense of what kind of guy you are, what your “scene” is, what you think is cool.
Never change that.
Instead, cultivate it, with these simple tweaks.
Wear colors that suites to your skin tone and hair color. This isn’t rocket science. You can look online or go to n upscale men’s clothing store, and ask someone about this.
Next thing, make sure your clothes are clean, wrinkle free and reasonably updated. A woman shouldn’t have to worry about bringing you around her friends.
Lastly, make sure that your garments are well-fitted, in other words, they EMPHASIZE YOUR MASCULINE PHYSIQUE.
Wear shirts that narrow your waist, and square your shoulders.
Put on a pants that make your legs look long and thin.
Wear shoes that make your feet look big and well-formed.
Clean up yourself - nose, neck, and ear hairs. Get a respectable haircut. Figure out what looks great for if you shave or not to shave, and take it all the way.
One other thing…
Accessories should adhere off you loosely, and have a look of a small decoration that says, “yeah, I can fuck.”
Use your intuition with this one. I don’t want to say too much because that’s a whole other topic.
I am NOT the most fashionable guy in the world.
Usually it is my girlfriend who pick the clothes for me - not for my benefit…
… but so that she doesn’t feel embarrassed when we go out in public together!
If I were the one to pick my clothes, I’d rather pick the sweats and t-shirt, coupled with my old worn sneakers. I mean, I think fashion is silly.
I can definitely appreciate the artistic aspect of fashion design and style. When you look at a really well dressed woman, her outfit is like a work of art, and I dig that.
I kinda lose respect when a guy is “too stylish.”
Don’t get me wrong, a man should present himself like he means to be taken seriously. A nice suit, good quality, well-fitting clothes are a fundamental part of masculine expression.
But some men take it too far.
Case in point, the obsession with “peacocking” in the pickup Community for the past several years.
When I hear this term it makes me cringe.
YOU ARE NOT A PEACOCK.
Let me explain what is “peacocking,” in case you’re not familiar.
There was an emergence of routine-based “game” a while ago that rely heavily on superficial techniques, status games, and over-analysis of social interactions.
This always gone in the opposite direction and I never saw the value of it.
Major reason is I saw how pretending to be someone other than yourself, and it JUST FELT WRONG saying the routines and joke that the other guys came up with.
On top of that, the PRIMARY FOCUS of all that strategizing and game-playing was to covertly get approval from women, while making them feel insecure so they’d think you were cooler than them.
Think about the layers of bullshit in that approach to dating. Not only are you faking your personality because you
a) look for approval (as if girls were an authority on what makes man a man)
b) hide the truth that you’re looking for approval
c) play games with women so that they feel insecure and try to seek your approval
YUCK
To dress up in a really loud, ostentatious way so that women would “notice” you and want to talk to you is a kind of “peacock,”. And “peacock” is one of the main techniques in approaching women.
Wearing a nice watch, or a necklace isn’t a bad thing because some have personal meaning.
But don’t do it to make women like you.
I’m pretty sure a lot of men has seen this approach on TV shows, straining to make sense out of this hare-brained “technique.”
It’s sad to say that some students of other pickup schools that I’ve encountered, were not only nervous, misdirected, clumsy, they looked RETARDED.
So I want to make a direct proof when it comes to fashion and approaching women.
There are only a handful of things you need to pay attention to when it comes to your appearance.
After you get this stuff handled, you should put it out of your mind, and not wait for women to notice you before you TAKE ACTION.
Before we move on, I have a secret that has to reveal.
(Continued in Part 2)
