Just when I know how to escalate and get good with women quickly, I think of those women I slept with but couldn’t keep around.
And that is quite depressing.
There are so many women that has the ability to be a great girlfriend.
But I had my brain up my butt.
…maybe that’s a little harsh.
But either way it comes down to TWO distinct problems:
First, I was working hard to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd but I’ve never fully recovered. And I’ve stopped trying to recover. And that’s what’s made me move past this “proving myself” thing.
I’ve accepted what I am.
Sure, I like video games and comic books.
But…
Do you believe girls have cooler interests?
Is shopping, getting drunk and Myspace are cooler than what I’m into?
It’s all relative.
Self-acceptance is what really matters.
A girl won’t accept you if you don’t accept yourself first.
Can you imagine a woman wanting to be your girlfriend when you don’t like yourself?
She will HATE your company and not want to be around you.
Because you can’t really like a woman, if you don’t like yourself. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who do you think wants to date a loser?
Although it sounds easy, self-acceptance is extremely rare. How often do you hear people say, “I don’t care what anyone thinks of me!”
Based on my experience, almost all DON’T ACCEPT themselves completely.
And I am one of them.
How you accept yourself is how women find you attractive, and people likes to be around you.
It may be hard to completely accept yourself. There is an old beliefs creep in and saying you are not enough, that you must be more than yourself now.
But the degree to which you banish these thoughts is the degree to which your game becomes better.
Because game is really about being yourself, not doubting yourself. And game doesn’t stop after your opener, after “mating”, after a few dates. It never stops.
Because it is you.
You are not separated from your game.
The “game” is the degree to which you can express who you really are. Your game IS YOU.
Maybe you think “But I’m nervous and insecure and awkward.” I don’t agree. That’s not you.
That is the indistinct you.
That is you trying to come out, but the one that stop you from expressing what you really want to express is your ego and your old mental habits.
Before I go deeper to that, I want to skip to the second reason why I couldn’t keep women around after I slept with them.
I’m not conscious about shaping.
Knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance. And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don’t know what you want, you can’t shape.
In fact, it is self-acceptance, applied to others. You encourage women to do to you what you like if you know what you like also.
As you can see, women are very flexible. They have a lot of things that they can expose to a guy. Men usually tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than the man.
But it’s not really her fault. She’s just doing what she’s told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.
So if you approach and treat a woman like a pedestal, she will act accordingly.
If you approach a woman and treat her like she’s lucky that you approached her, she will feel that way.
Also if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle after mating with her, she will do so.
We go into this heavily in our workshops. I’ve developed lots of ways to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.
And each woman is different. For example, I may want one woman to be just a mating partner. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what you want.
I remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I used to have.
Also I think all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist, and how frustrating it was not see those women again.
But when I began to accept myself and analyze what I wanted, it all came together.
The Attraction Code is all about figuring out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the women you want to meet, sleep with, and date.
If you are struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine through The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE.