Just when I know how to escalate and get good with women quickly, I think of those women I slept with but couldn’t keep around.
And that is quite depressing.
There are so many women that has the ability to be a great girlfriend.
But I had my brain up my butt.
…maybe that’s a little harsh.
But either way it comes down to TWO distinct problems:
First, I was working hard to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd but I’ve never fully recovered. And I’ve stopped trying to recover. And that’s what’s made me move past this “proving myself” thing.
I’ve accepted what I am.
Sure, I like video games and comic books.
But…
Do you believe girls have cooler interests?
Is shopping, getting drunk and Myspace are cooler than what I’m into?
It’s all relative.
Self-acceptance is what really matters.
A girl won’t accept you if you don’t accept yourself first.
Can you imagine a woman wanting to be your girlfriend when you don’t like yourself?
She will HATE your company and not want to be around you.
Because you can’t really like a woman, if you don’t like yourself. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who do you think wants to date a loser?
Although it sounds easy, self-acceptance is extremely rare. How often do you hear people say, “I don’t care what anyone thinks of me!”
Based on my experience, almost all DON’T ACCEPT themselves completely.
And I am one of them.
How you accept yourself is how women find you attractive, and people likes to be around you.
It may be hard to completely accept yourself. There is an old beliefs creep in and saying you are not enough, that you must be more than yourself now.
But the degree to which you banish these thoughts is the degree to which your game becomes better.
Because game is really about being yourself, not doubting yourself. And game doesn’t stop after your opener, after “mating”, after a few dates. It never stops.
Because it is you.
You are not separated from your game.
The “game” is the degree to which you can express who you really are. Your game IS YOU.
Maybe you think “But I’m nervous and insecure and awkward.” I don’t agree. That’s not you.
That is the indistinct you.
That is you trying to come out, but the one that stop you from expressing what you really want to express is your ego and your old mental habits.
Before I go deeper to that, I want to skip to the second reason why I couldn’t keep women around after I slept with them.
I’m not conscious about shaping.
Knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance. And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don’t know what you want, you can’t shape.
In fact, it is self-acceptance, applied to others. You encourage women to do to you what you like if you know what you like also.
As you can see, women are very flexible. They have a lot of things that they can expose to a guy. Men usually tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than the man.
But it’s not really her fault. She’s just doing what she’s told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.
So if you approach and treat a woman like a pedestal, she will act accordingly.
If you approach a woman and treat her like she’s lucky that you approached her, she will feel that way.
Also if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle after mating with her, she will do so.
We go into this heavily in our workshops. I’ve developed lots of ways to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.
And each woman is different. For example, I may want one woman to be just a mating partner. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what you want.
I remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I used to have.
Also I think all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist, and how frustrating it was not see those women again.
But when I began to accept myself and analyze what I wanted, it all came together.
The Attraction Code is all about figuring out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the women you want to meet, sleep with, and date.
If you are struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine through The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE.
Most of the time, a man can feel like a slave to his natural need to procreate.
Then there’s that common phrase, “He thinks with his… You know.”
Well it is hard NOT think that way if you are physically unsatisfied.
But men are also goal oriented.
We are doers, and need to achieve things and affect the world in a positive way.
One of the biggest challenges I’ve personally faced is balancing the two - my urges and
achieving my goals.
When you are single, dating can consume a lot of time. Women will suck away at your time if you don’t know what you’re doing.
Before you notice it, you are spending hours feeding the birds and cuddling in the park… now nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS IT DON’T interferes YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.
Goals take time, but so do women.
In fact, it’s the nature of a woman to take up the man’s time - it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. That way if the woman gets pregnant there’s a less chance of you leaving (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).
It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, giving their time to women is what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.
Men also have a urges that can completely take over your thoughts.
Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most time of your life.
Now take a minute to ask yourself about this, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”
Now I’m willing to bet it wasn’t “money,” or “lots of my free time,” or “control over my
life.”
It was probably something like “feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure,
excitement, relaxation, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”
I think guys have some difficulties with how they use their time with women in two ways.
First, they overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a
woman because they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren’t that valuable.
Second, men think that they are “getting” something valuable when a woman spends her
time with them.
Society brainwashes men to believe that women are a prize to claim, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.
It’s not TRUE!
The best thing is to see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are
cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!
Now getting out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women is really hard.
Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you’ve been doing them for
years.
Young men are taught that their urges is crude and silly, and that it is just a favor that women ALLOWS them to mate with them.
There’s another societal factor going on, that I call the “doofus dad” syndrome. In almost every TV commercial and sitcom, the “dad” or “boyfriend” or “husband” is a dopey, incompetent goof, and the mom/daughter/girlfriend/wife has to use her superior intelligence to fix the situation.
This will bring to the idea that the time of the women is more valuable than men because of the perception that women are “better.”
If your time is not so valuable, then you will feel obligated to give her LOTS OF IT.
But here’s the thing - if you are giving a woman too much time, you won’t be present for most of that time. You will be distracted, resentful, you will give her your “half-assed” attention.
When I analyzed tons and tons of dates I went on women, it was just when I realized it.
After that I started giving women smaller amounts of my time, but with my FULL ATTENTION.
Not only did this make our time better, it created MASSIVE ATTRACTION because I left women craving more.
This make my girlfriends can’t get enough of me - and I don’t GIVE THEM “enough.”
Ask you know, “enough” would mean, “overexposure” to me, and women can’t be pulled to what they already have.
The proper way to manage your time is by being HONEST. And I don’t recommend you to play games with women and pretend to be busy or whatever.
Just be real with her - don’t spend more time that you want. no need of games.
Enjoy whatever free time you have with women but still with focus on your personal goals. Be the man on the go.
Now it requires that in a short span of time that you can be able to meet a lot of women, which I’ll have to take up in another newsletter.
It’s not good to see that men waste their lives chasing and “putting up with” girls, and then they are left out ALONE.
You should think that women aren’t property that you can keep or somehow bring with you when you die.
Investing all your time with a woman is not a guarantee that you can “keep” her.
I want to make one more point - when you start being honest about how much time you’re willing to give a woman, you may feel GUILTY.
It either she will make you feel guilty or you will feel it on your own. That’s ok, it just means that you have a weak focus.
You see, it usually comes from the social norm if you are following your true ways.
If you are in the mental habit of adopting the values others try to impose onto you, you will most likely experience some discomfort, tension, guilt, even loneliness at first.
That’s why I set and develop the Attraction Code. It’s all about self-control, finding true path, and letting the real ‘you’ emerge from within.
And no, we don’t intend to impose our goals to you. I think you are capable enough to handle it to yourself, given the proper guidance.
Most of the time, a man can feel like a slave
to his natural need to procreate.
Then there goes a common quote, “He thinks
with his… You know.”
Well it is hard NOT think that way if you are
physically unsatisfied.
But men are also goal oriented.
We are doers, and need to achieve things and
affect the world in a positive way.
One of the biggest challenges I’ve personally
faced is balancing the two - my urges and
achieving my goals.
When you are single, dating can take a lot of
time. If you don’t know what you’re doing,
women will suck away at your time.
Before you know it, you are spending hours in
the park, feeding the birds and cuddling…
there’s nothing wrong with spending a quality
time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU
DON’T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.
Goals take time, and so do women.
In fact, it’s their NATURE to take up a man’s
time - it’s her way of getting you to invest
in her. That way there’s less chance of you
leaving if she gets pregnant (this comes from
our caveman days, so to speak).
It is really tricky to manage your time with
women. You see, giving their time to women is
what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are
“givers.” They like to please women, protect
them, and give them good feelings.
Men also have a urges that can completely take
over your thoughts.
Both of these things can get of you making the
most of your life, your time.
Now take a minute to ask yourself about this,
“WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”
Now I know it wasn’t about “money,” or
“control over my life,” or “lots of my free
time.”
It was probably something like “feeling of
safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure,
excitement, relaxation, make her smile or feel
good about herself, etc.”
There are two ways that I think why men have
problems with how they use their time with
women.
First, they overcompensate with other stuff -
like spending too much time or money on a
woman because they think that the gifts they
REALLY wanted to give aren’t that valuable.
Second, men think that they are “getting”
something valuable when a woman spends her
time with them.
Guys was brainwash by the society to believe
that women are a prize to attain, and that
there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.
It’s a LIE!
The best thing is to see women for what they
are, nothing more, nothing less. They are
cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that
important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!
Now it can be really hard to break out of this
mental prison of feeling inferior to women.
Your mental habits are subtle and hard to
notice because you’ve been doing them for
years.
Young men are taught that their urges is
crude and silly, and that it is just a favor
that women ALLOWS them to mate with them.
There’s a syndrome that I call a “doofus dad”
syndrome. There’s another societal factor going
on, . In almost every TV commercial and
sitcom, the “dad” or “boyfriend” or “husband”
is a dopey, incompetent goof, and the
mom/daughter/girlfriend/wife has to use her
superior intelligence to fix the situation.
This will bring to the idea that the time of
the women is more valuable than men because of
the perception that women are “better.”
You will feel obligated to give a woman a LOT
OF TIME if your time is not so valuable.
But here’s the thing - if you are giving a
woman too much time, you won’t be present for
most of that time. You will be distracted,
resentful, you will give her your “half-assed”
attention.
I just realize this after analyzing lots of
dates I went on women.
After that I started to give my FULL ATTENTION
to women even though I’m only giving a smaller
amounts of my time.
Not only did this make our time better, it
created MASSIVE ATTRACTION because I left
women craving more.
Now my women can’t get enough of me - in fact,
I don’t GIVE THEM “enough.”
You see, “enough” would mean, “overexposure”
to me, and women can’t be pulled to what they
already have.
The proper way to manage your time is by being
HONEST. And I don’t recommend you to play
games with women and pretend to be busy or
whatever.
No need of games, just be real with the girl -
and don’t spend more time that you want.
Enjoy whatever free time you have with women
but still with focus on your personal goals.
Be the man on the go.
Now in a short amount of time it requires that
you are able to meet a lot of women, which
I’ll have to cover in another newsletter.
It makes me sad to see men waste their lives
chasing and “putting up with” women, and then
they are buried in their coffin ALONE.
Women aren’t property that you can keep or
somehow take with you when you die. Think
about that.
You can’t “keep” a woman by investing all your
time with her.
One more thing here - if you start being
honest with the amount of time you are willing
give to a woman, you may feel GUILTY.
It either she will make you feel guilty or you
will feel it on your own. That’s ok, it just
means that you have a weak focus.
If you are following your true ways, it will
usually from the social norm.
If you are in the mental habit of adopting the
values others try to impose onto you, you will
most likely experience some discomfort,
tension, guilt, even loneliness at first.
That’s why I set and develop the Attraction
Code. It’s all about self-control, finding
true path, and letting the real ‘you’ emerge
from within.
And no, we don’t try to impose our values or
goals onto you. We think you’ll be able to do
that for yourself, given the proper guidance.
Are you interested in meeting, attracting and keeping a “10″ kind of a woman? If yes, then you will find the letter very interesting.
But before anything else, let’s go waaaay back…
Back in high school, I had a girl classmate that was so perfect.
That girl was so beautiful, cool and smart that it was hard to look at her (and yet I can’t take my eyes off away from her)…
She was friendly to everyone and was one of the popular kids in school.
We talked occasionally, and looking back I realize we were flirting (I was too stupid to realize at the time).
I was really wanted to ask her to senior prom… but at the last minute I chickened out.
It was a few years later that I realized that the girl had a crushed on me all the senior year.
I’ve talked to a lot of guys and this seems a pretty common experience among them there was this ONE SPECIAL WOMAN who you crushed on from afar, and they missed an opportunity with her, or she broke your heart…
Ah, the hard to tame “10,” a perfect girl that every guy dream of but never seems to have it.
I have so many things to say about this so-called “10’s.” In one word they are women of another “breed,” but at the same time, what makes them so is in the way they think.
To help you resolve this conundrum, and maybe help you find that “perfect girl” for yourself, you need to understand you own fascination with female perfection, and understand the reality behind extremely beautiful women.
First thing, the idea about “10″ is just a myth. There’s no such thing as a perfect human being. You cannot tell that a girl is more “valuable” just because she looks beautiful than the other girl.
A woman that turns you on and have a great chemistry with you is the only true “10″ and is the one that’s perfect for you.
Subsequently, there are a lot of 10’s in the world, you just need to have the ability to meet a bunch of women, and make an options for yourself.
It will be a failure on your part if you treat women differently just basing solely on looks or on whose much prettier.
Why?
Because a lot of guys do that.
A woman knows what you’re thinking and sees you as shallow.
But of course there are certain women that seem on another “level” of beauty than the other. And they are treated much differently than other women.
You need to understand on how you will deal with these kinds of women.
As I’ve said, you shouldn’t treat women “differently.”
Let me clear this up.
You shouldn’t treat a girl BETTER than the others. But there are two things you need to know.
First of all, a woman is turn off for those men that chases her only for the looks alone.
More than anything else, a woman values a guy that appreciates her personality.
Now for the benefits of yours, I’ll give you a heads up.
The so-called “10’s” has two different types.
Low self-esteem and high self-esteem.
The pretty common is the low self-esteem 10’s. Women here have a guilt complex. Because they are used to being wanted for their looks, but they know that they didn’t EARN that attention.
In fact, most of their lives are probably coasted, and are in complete dumbasses.
It may sound harsh but I call it like that.
These women will respond to jerk behavior. They take away and flip out their validation will and do anything to get it back.
Anything.
(Aside from that, these women usually suck in bed and are total head cases when you get involved with them.)
Meanwhile, the high self-esteem 10’s are women that have had a taste of the elite - early from the start they realized that high levels of society were attainable to them, they exert an effort be intelligent, successful and make the most of their lives.
They know that they can get closer to a great life than everyone else, and they are motivated to put a lot of hard work to attain that.
Usually these women have good attitudes, are intelligent, have a direction in life and have lots of interests beyond being clubbing.
In fact, most of beautiful women I’ve dated didn’t go to the club. They just spend their nights being with their families, reading, or having a nice dinner with friends (or studying if they were in college).
Another interesting thing is that these women are single for long periods of time while in-between boyfriends. Why?
It is because they have high standards for themselves, and this makes most men either too intimidated to ask them out, or act too needy and pathetic around them, it’s rare that they meet another man who is on their level.
But here’s the good thing. If you understand The Attraction Code you will know that these women are the easiest to attract.
Being the best man you can be and being a “male 10″ is what you will get from these Attraction Code.
When you start to embody the Attraction Code you will surely notice an interesting thing.
Occasionally women that are less attractive will be rude to you and you’ll get an odd responses from them- that is because they know they’re not on your level - I call this as Auto-Rejection Mechanism. Some girls will try to protect themselves from being rejected by you, by rejecting YOU first.
But you’ll be amazed to see the responds of the most beautiful and attractive women that warm right up to you as soon as you approach them - whether on the street or in the bar - because they can see that you are on their “level.”
The woman will thinks “finally, a guy who can hang with me; he’s confident and treats me like a real person. And he’s the only guy who’s actually tried to talk to me today, instead of whistling from his car.”
The Attraction Code is intended for these kinds of women. And you’ll also enjoy a lot of “adventures” with all kinds of women, but this is about having the option of dating the hottest, highest quality women.
I will be sharing with you today a very important and powerful subject when it comes to meeting and holding the interest of a women and anyone in your life.
This subject is no other than Storytelling and when used correctly, can make your desirability with women sky rocket.
But Before I jump into the tips and secrets behind successful story telling. I want to clear up a few myths when it comes to the matter of story telling.
Myth one: My stories have to be true and about me.
Now this is ultimately up for you to decide but as long as you keep the conversation fun, apply the right story telling techniques, and can keep the conversation moving, then your story does not have to be true.
Even if the women knows that the story is true, if you kept it fun, she will be entertained and most likely run with new conversation topics developed from your stories.
I am not encouraging you to lie though, the most powerful stories are ones that are true and come from a place of emotion.
You can be so over the top with stories where the unbelievably becomes so fun that she gets involved and becomes part of a newly painted reality that you and the girl get to share and more importantly create together. (This becomes a key factor in “Role Playing” and by mastering storytelling, your creativity in “Role Play Conversations” raises but sadly, the subject of role playing will have to be saved for a later issue.)
However I think the biggest misconception is not whether the stories have to be true, but is more about whether or not they have to be about the story teller.
One of the main goals of story telling is to communicate to the listener about you. Surprisingly, it is easier to convey things about yourself by HOW you tell a story, not the actual content of it.
Through the power of expressions, energy, and vivid language, you can convey to your listeners such things as, dominance, humor, interests, and over all personality.
When applying the proper techniques of a story, you should be able to repeat what you heard on the news but in such a fashion that directly makes you more interesting and displays your personality.
Myth Two: As you get better with women you become less dependent on story telling.
Now there is some truth to this myth in the sense that you do not go into interactions with pre-scripted stories as much as you may starting out. However, it is through the skills that storytelling develops that make you less dependent.
Instead of going into in interaction with a story you have made up or written down and rehearsed, you are able to share any subject in an interesting fashion that makes people listen.
This skill is enhanced by applying the arts of storytelling and is one of the key reasons learning and mastering storytelling is a great way to improve not only your skills with women, but your overall social skills.
What is storytelling > > >
Storytelling is the direct means of communication when highlighting important parts of your life to the listener. Not only through context, but through delivery.
Why is storytelling important > > >
Storytelling plays a very important part in getting to know someone and the great thing about telling a story, is that it creates so many other subject matters to talk about and that a story is almost always followed by another story.
There are many reasons storytelling is important and if you are not currently utilizing storytelling then consider these following facts:
* Storytelling is a great way to save dying conversations
This is one of the most common problems that I see with many guys. An interaction will be going great, then conversation starts to die and there is that awkward silence. This is a great time to bust out a story from your arsenal and revive the interaction.
Knowing you are armed with a story creates more approach confidence when entering an interaction.
People are afraid to enter interactions because of the fear of running out of things to say. By developing a great story or two and keeping them in your back pocket for when you need them creates a great since of confidence during the initial approach and can really help limit the anxiety that one gets when approaching a beautiful women. You are guaranteed that the interaction will last at least the length of your story.
* Storytelling is a great way to display dominance
When you are telling a story the right way, all eyes are on you, you are the center of attention, and everyone lingers off your next word. Holding the attention of the group through storytelling puts you in a dominant frame of you being the leader of the interaction and everyone else being the listener, waiting to see where you take the group next.
* Storytelling develops stronger social skills
This is one of the biggest reasons that I like to make sure everyone masters storytelling. Through storytelling you learn to capture the entire attention of the group. Also you directly convey your personality and it gets you accustomed to doing so. The skills that are developed from strong storytelling directly carry over into your social personality that make all conversation with you more exciting and vivid. The expressiveness you show in stories ties into your future interactions and directly improves your social personality.
* You can convey things through storytelling that you normally could not say.
There may be some interesting details of your life that said outside the context of a story may come off as bragging. But in a story, these little details are never the subject of the story thus they remain subtle but are powerful when displaying aspects of your identity.
What you convey through your stories is how you will be remembered.
Unlike most things you say during an interaction, a good story is unforgettable. How many times have you had someone tell you about some crazy story that one of their friends told them? Stories have been passed down for ages; it is an old custom and still exists till this day. The girl should be able to look back on the interaction and be like “Oh yeah, that was the guy who (did whatever interesting activity that relates to you).”
Now that you have an idea of why storytelling is so effective and what you should be aiming for when telling a story. We are going to work on creating your very own powerful stories that cannot be neglect. All this will be covered in Part II of this newsletter, but there is an exercise I want you to do right now so you can directly apply all the tips and tactics to create an amazing story.
Exercise 1: Write down anywhere from seven to ten moments in your life that you feel changed or defined who you are.
Ideas: Vacations, Life/Death Experiences, an unforgettable concert or sporting event, a moment you succeeded, something funny that happened to you or a friend.
This can be happy, fun, or even sad (not depressing) but we do learn through negative experiences. We will eventually cut these down to just a couple stories in Part II but for now I just want you to get into the habit of taking note of interesting experiences in your life.
If you have a funny story then that is just a humorous time then feel free to include that. But even if the story does not seem major yet entertaining, the fact that you can remember it means it has a bigger effect than you realize.
I have already anticipated that there are going to be people that would say they have no interesting stories. This is absolutely not the true; everyone has something interesting that has shaped who they are. Don’t be modest; even if it’s a silly story write it down. You can’t be afraid to share a story, sometimes they are hard to think of and if you really can’t think of a past story, starting paying more attention to your every day life. And if you still can’t think of one then go take a vacation, you will return with hundreds of them.
So many things happen in one day that people don’t even think would be a story. But every past event being told is a story. There is no excuse not to have one.
Exercise 2: Write down at least 5 things that you would like people to know about you.
Ideas: Hobbies, Sports you play, instruments you play, your job, your goals, your skills and achievements.
This is going to tie into personality conveying. Think of the things that you would like any friend or new acquaintance to know about you. These are the things that directly relate to your identity and make you who you are. Do not be surprised if these things are directly related in some way to the stories you wrote down in exercise one.
Now save this list, we are going to use it a lot in Part II of this newsletter to construct a powerful stories that you can always rely on. Also I will further go into the skills of storytelling and how to use them to make every story and conversation more interesting.
I am going to do this very exercise along with you guys so you will get to see my story end product as well.
So, just keep an eye for the next letter and get ready to really take storytelling to the on the action.
I have been quite an expert on fast pick-ups. But there’s one problem that I want to share with you.
You see, even though guys that can pull these off enjoy not only success with women straight out of a fantasy world and typically get women obsessed with them, with a fast pick-up comes a big problem…
SOMETIMES FAST PICK-UPS DON’T BECOME A RELATIONSHIP.
Sometimes a fast pick-up becomes a one night stand instead of converting it into a relationship.
Well, its fine for those that has that intention.
But a lot of times, you DO want to see the woman again - or possibly start a relationship with her.
Here’s something I want you to know - In the past 2 years EVERY girl I have slept with has been under 4 hours.
And EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. wanted to see me again…
So why am I saying this?
I’m saying this NOT to brag. But I’m saying this so that you can realize the great amount of value I can offer you as a client of mine, and to prove a very important thing:
“HOW FAST YOU SLEEP WITH A WOMAN IS “NOT THE BASIS” TO START A RELATIONSHIP WITH HER.”
In fact there are three major points on how to have a continuing intimate relationship with a girl…
And this time I will reveal a few myths about this.
MYTH #1: “Build a 7+ hours comfort” with the girl before sleeping with her.
As I said, the amount of time you spend with a girl has nothing to do in sleeping with her.
In fact it has almost NOTHING to do with anything you do before you sleep with her. The secret lies in what you do AFTER you sleep with her.
I have got it down to an exact science. A series of actions and behaviors that practically guarantee she will not only see you again, but also be borderline obsessed with you…
Just have a natural behaviors that a person can learn from you in less than five minutes. Nothing fancy, no routines or lines…
Here’s the REALITY of this situation.
The reality is some of the hottest and most intelligent women I have dated LOVED the excitement of getting physical really fast.
It’s straight out of the movies, and very few guys can pull it off skillfully.
MYTH #2: You need to reassure the woman that you will see her again before sleeping with her.
A lot of guys try this… they imply that the women is “relationship material” or that he definitely wants to see her again.
Man… what a way to kill an intrigue right off the bat…
Guys do this and tend to come on wayyyy to strong. They appear too interested, too needy, to desperate to get a girlfriend.
But at the same time you should NEVER imply that it’s a one night stand, or that you’re just interested in bed.
This isn’t very effective either…
MYTH #3: You have to be great in bed the first time you sleep with her.
Julian, who is a good friend of mine, admitted that he is bad in bed and only lasts for about 3 minutes but converts girls like *CRAZY*.
Point here, he is NOT good in bed (his choice), and STILL gets women so crazy about him, they won’t leave him alone…. (it just end up the women sitting there naked, watching him playing Gears of War on his Xbox360)
May be at this point you are thinking…
“THIS IS TOO ADVANCED, I STILL HAVE PROBLEMS PICKING UP AND SLEEPING WITH A WOMAN!”
I know that.
But listen. This is an important information that you’re going to need soon.
And let’s be honest - when you DO start sleeping with women - wouldn’t you rather have the CHOICE to see them again or not?
