Seduction Tips

Sexual Tension is the energy or charge of interaction to a woman. Its application is subtle, but powerful.

Sexual tension is the presence of a controlled arousal state, in the absence of overt sexual interest.

There are many different conceptualizations of sexual tension floating around in the seduction community. Some of these techniques are better than others, and can definitely improve the quality and success of your pickups. I prefer a very pure definition of sexual tension because it is grounded in real sexual desire, and a very natural way of magnifying the tension felt by the woman.

Some examples of these are cocky bantering and flirting, explicit sexual interest paired with false barriers, using the word “sexy” to convey a sexual intent, and of course the old Speed Seduction route – complex language patterns intended to implant sexual thoughts in a woman’s mind.

When the time is right, I create sexual tension by focusing my sexual desire on my woman, but not making any overt sexual advances. I maintain intrigue, a sense of ambiguity, which keeps her focused on me, and directs her mind toward sexual thoughts. My state is transferred to her, and she is now aroused. It is then only a matter of handling logistics through leadership and compliance techniques.

Controlled Sexual Arousal State

There are two reasons why a sexually arousal state is so important:

First, women love sex. A sexual man is valuable to a woman because he can give her pleasure. Women are attracted to men who are attracted to women.

The second reason is more subtle. There is a phenomenon I call “state-transfer.” Have you ever been in a bad mood, and a friend came by in a really great, excited mood?

Your mood probably changed, and you found yourself smiling and cheering up in spite of yourself.

How do you feel around someone when they are nervous? You feel nervous too.

State transfer may occur on a metaphysical, psychic energy level. But more so, a state is transferred with non-verbal sub communication. When you are turned on, your voice subtly (or not so subtly) reflects your state, as do your facial expressions, eye contact, manner of touching, body language, and a million other little things to numerous to try to micromanage.

Think of a time you were with a woman (or say a girlfriend), and she was obviously very horny and sexually aroused, but you in your normal state and weren’t doing anything sexual. You probably will get aroused too because she was horny. This is how humans hypnotize each other in every day life – we transfer our states to each other.

How to have a controlled arousal state

State control is vital - if you are nervous or uncomfortable, you won’t be able to get sexually aroused. (State control is vital in our life. It allows you to stay calm, generally happy, and more productive. In spiritual terms, it is sometimes called “staying centered” or having “peace of mind.”)

It’s not as simple as just being turned on, but the best way to stay calm and comfortable in social situations is experience. Socialize more, go out (be sober), get experience talking to women.

Meditation, good diet, avoidance of harmful indulgences like drug use, television, internet, and regular exercise all help.

Creating Tension

For the “getting turned on” part, raising your testosterone level will have an incredible effect. Natural ways to increase testosterone include heavy weight training (squats, deadlifts, bench press, etc.) zinc supplementation, eating lots of animal protein, and if possible, regular sex.

During your interactions with women, simply focus on what she’d look like naked, or imagine having sex with her, or whatever fun little thoughts you want to entertain. You already know how to get aroused.

The tension component is really an extension of the second level of the Attraction Hierarchy - Intrigue. Intrigue can be described in two ways. It can be seen as a lack of over-validating a woman, or getting her attention fixated on you by being ambiguous and holding back information.

These are flip sides of the same coin. Applied to sexual tension, we enter a sexual state, but don’t verbalize our desire.

If we did, she may like it, or not like it, but at now she knows where she stands - she is validated.

That isn’t bad, but it’s not optimal. She has you figured out, and knows you want her, which gives her the option of forgetting about you and focusing elsewhere. You are “solved.”

Another key point about verbalizing sexual interest is that it puts her in a position where she has to agree to it. She must consciously admit that this is leading to sex. Again, that’s not bad, but is not optimal, and sometimes can create a mental block in her mind for getting isolated with you.

Imagine sitting in a room with a closed treasure chest in front of you. Then you open it and find gold coins. When is the chest more interesting?

True, the gold coins are great, but there’s no longer a mystery. You can even forget about the gold coins for a while to go watch TV or call a friend, because those coins aren’t going anywhere.

But before you know what’s in there, that chest preoccupies your mind and keeps your attention.

Once you have mastered that concept, you’re well on your way.

Usually the first thing guys want to do when they meet a girl is show her that they understand GAME.

They will start talking about evolution, alpha males, how women will always cheat on their boyfriends, how they know girls like   more sensual than guys etc.

That is nonsense, I consider it as "The Talk of Death".

Let me explain why, and also give you a very counter-intuitive idea of what to do instead.

I’+e learned that this kind of things is generally very poor conversation topics with women. Especially if you’ve encountered hot women.

Just work it out with the social anthropologist grad student, but to the girl that any man in his right mind would be attracted to, there are a few major things wrong with this strategy:

(BTW - if you do happen to run into a girl that loves this kind of stuff, by all means talk about it, I’m just saying it should not be used as an ATTRACTION strategy for most of the female population)

1. It puts a woman on the defensive. It’s exactly like one country revealing it’s battle plans to another country that it is at war with.

It shows that you are "thinking too much" about the dynamic, which not only is a huge turn off, but also makes her think you’re going to be a mind-trip. Not good.

2. Chances are, her awareness level is about 10% of yours. Especially if you’re keeping up on my newsletters. This is a concept called "Stepped Awareness".

Have you ever tried played a song you LOVED for a friend and they just didn’t get it?  

It’s because their awareness didn’t go through the same process that yours had - and resulted in you really liking the song…

To a girl who spends the majority of her time thinking about new shoes, celebrities and her problems with her boss, your talk about "the unique mating patters of the bonobo apes and how it relates to girls in the club" is just too alien and weird for her.

This is the same reason why you’ll sometimes see the biggest AFC ever with a smoking hot girl. He’s normal, and she can easily introduce him to her friends without embarrassment!

3. To a girl that DOES understand it; what you are talking about  make it seem like a big deal, when it should be plainly obvious.

About 5 to 10% of women actually DO get this stuff. It’s obvious, intuitive and accepted for them.

These women tend to also like women, capable of open relationships, and generally a lot of fun.

But here’s the thing - the guys they end up dating ALSO get this stuff intuitively.

And when you get something intuitively, you’ll never go out of your way to convince another person of it, or explain it like it’s some huge revelation!

So the minute you do, the girls who are most eligible for the lifestyle you’re looking for, will automatically disqualify you.

So… What to do instead?

Well - one of the most powerful techniques I use is this:

**Understand society’s programming, understand her specific programming, and appear to be under the exact same programming.**

Keep your knowledge of REALITY to yourself (and of course, if you figure out anything amazing, I would appreciate it if you share it on my forum as well)

You’re going to see a big difference in your game.

And I want to be part of it.

Some guys will never be successful dealing with women.

"What?!" Surprise about it?
 
But Its true. A lot of guys just won’t get it.

I’m not saying that they’re not smart enough or somehow defective…

The fact is, it’s a subconscious choice, that they have made unknowingly.

I know what you’re thinking.

"How can I make sure I’m not one of those guys?"

Am I right?

Well I’m here to tell you how. And probably what I’m about to say had never been heard from other gurus because it’s such a very subtle yet very powerful fix that most have neglected out in their equation.

Let me tell you about Matt. He’s a good guy and likes to socialize. And he has taken a bootcamp with another pickup companies. But Matt still doesn’t get the success he really wants; in fact he’s not successful at all.

"Vin, why don’t you help him!?"

There are a couple reasons why I don’t help Matt out. One being he’s too confident in his ways and is stubborn.

BUT, that’s not the real reason. If Matt was only stubborn I’d have an easy time changing his mind about things.

The real reason why I can’t help him is the same reason why he isn’t successful with women.

As I said Matt’s a good guy, but every time we talk I get the feeling like he wants something from me. In fact a lot of our mutual friends have said the same thing to me about him.

Me and our friends don’t like hanging out with him and neither do women.

Matt always give this vibe of having an ulterior motive. He talks to you like a friend, which is good, but he naturally gives off a vibe that says to me that he’s trying to take knowledge, power and fun from me.

The same thing happens to Matt when he’s talking to women. He treats them in a friendly manner and is funny but always gives off this vibe that he has an underlying intention.

Men have intentions women… We all do. And it isn’t a bad thing. If you express your sensual intentions openly, they’ll acceptable it, especially if you have  great game. It may even turn them on. IN FACT it will skyrocket your conversion rate if you do it the right way.

But if you hide your intentions you come off as creepy and weird. Women won’t trust you and they won’t even feel safe being alone with you. You could be the best actor in the world but… THEY WILL KNOW.

Being creepy is the "Death" card in the Tarot deck of your love life. It destroy any chance of success you might have.

Now you know what might be going wrong. How can you fix it?

Well to start off you need to begin being fun and entertaining, and unattached to the outcome as long as you can. It could be anything from telling a great story to a group or being a great host to a bunch of your friends. It could also be a compliment (in the right way of course) or a tease that will spike emotions in way that is fun to a woman.

Come out in your den and start talking to women not only because you are interested  to pickup and taking her in bed, but because find women amazing, fun and wonderful to be with.

Next thing you need to do is being clear about your intentions. This doesn’t mean  you tell the woman of "The whole purpose of me talking to you is so that I can get into your pants."  Hell no… That will destroy your pickup as fast as being creepy.

There are small subtle changes you can make in your behavior that will affect how your intentions are perceived and if you’re congruent with what you’re saying.  
There are so many small fixes that I could write a novel on them.

But do you want to read a novel about fixing your creepy vibe and then taking the months to implement it that it will require? I bet you won’t. And beside, I wouldn’t dare to spend the months writing that novel.

Does your a woman know that the vibe you’re showing to her is the real you?

Or does your woman know that after she sleeps with you all of what you said will be backed up?

Credibility is the answer to these.

There are lots of guys think that they don’t have enough value, 90% of it, it’s credibility they lack. In fact, most of the tactics used to create value these days only serves to make a nasty woman-repelling player vibe. (and anyone who’s anyone KNOWS I don’t even teach value. Not for a damn second!)

"Player vibe" is not actually a bad vibe, but a mistake in building and maintaining credibility.

Able to create credibility is one of the key components to sleeping with a girl quickly.

Another component is sexual tension.

And as a pick-up student, you know that there are women that needs sexual tension to sleep with a guy and the other half need credibility first. (You do know that, right?)

There are three levels of credibility.

1. Safety
2. Commonality
3. Direction

Safety: The basic and fundamental level of credibility in which you need to demonstrate SAFETY before a woman will be spending a night and sleep with you.

Commonality: You need to demonstrate commonality in order for a woman to continue sleeping with you, or having a continued affair with you.

Direction: You need to show direction in order that a woman will change her existing life plans or to leave her current boyfriend and be with you.

A WORD ABOUT SOCIAL PROGRAMMING ->

We have to realize that every person we meet is socially programmed in a different way. Even you yourself have have your own social programming. We all do.

These differences is not necessarily a bad thing. On the other hand, it’s very useful in our dealing with women.

Realize that although we understand a lot of a woman’s behaviors come from her social programming, we can’t expect her to realize that.

Men have instinct to try to sleep with as many women as possible, women have evolved an instinct to choose guys who gives a high chance of sticking around to raise children.

And this instinct is reinforced by social programming.

Woman’s programming is her reality and literally her world.

And the credibility is about showing you understand her world.

HERE’S AN EXAMPLE ->

 
You are comfortably warm sitting in a chair inside your bedroom.

And then a friend of you came in. And he said he was cold and wanted to turn up the heat. Then he told you he liked to sit on where you were sitting in. And asked if he could urinate in the corner of your room.

You would probably feel mad with him. You might even think he’s insane.

He’s showing you that he’s not seeing the same reality as you. He’s "in his own world".

Because he has shown you that he doesn’t understand and respect your world - you probably wouldn’t connect with him, or feel like giving him compliance.

And this is how women feel when you don’t demonstrate credibility.

If a woman thinks that it’s a wrong thing for a guy to kiss and tell (and most women do) -> You should show her you ALSO a believe that it’s not good for a guy to kiss and tell.

And you can get really good at this.

The fact that you have the same perceptions about the world as her will build your credibility vastly.

Try the three levels of credibility in this way:

Safety - It’s safe to have you in her world.

Commonality - See the same things in your woman’s world. Having same perceptions, values, and goals.

Direction - You have the ability to modify and change her world.

These are best demonstrated in order.

At first, guys are usually good at meeting a certain kind of woman.

It’s because guys naturally understands a certain type of woman’s worldview.

But as you get good, you’ll start to be able to match ANY woman’s worldview.

The best way of doing this is by anticipating her thoughts and verbalizing her feelings or views about the world, as if they are your own.

At first remember the things she said in the past, and then recall it after she has forgotten what she said.

Then you will get good at pacing her reality and leading. Eventually it gets to the point where you can intuitively understand her reality. Then she will trust you to change it for her. You enter your woman’s world, and then start teaching her new things about HER world.

That’s when you know you get this thing.

When someone comes along who understands a woman’s reality so well, she doesn’t just think he’s perceptive and skilled, she just feels a connection.

She will thinks "He’s just like me!"

This is really the easiest thing in the world. Yet so many people mess it up.

Once you get to this you’ll see your plan improving dramatically.